LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF THAT YOU CAN LOVE OTHERS

We are frantic, looking for someone to say we are OK, to appreciate us, say they like us, approve of us, make us feel special, choose us, set us apart.

We see forlorn faces desperate for love.

We watch crazy choices being made where people tolerate abusive situations just in hope of a shred of belonging.

It is a dead end. A road to no where. A recipe for misery and insecurity.

Stop now please.

Say to yourself. I am OK. I appreciate myself. I like myself and approve of myself. I am special. I choose myself. I set myself apart. I love myself. I belong to myself.

This is the beginning of a new life.

This is the holy grail of discovering your own identity. This is the only real moment you can honestly enter into relationship with others.

For from this personal strength and affirmation, from this inner confidence and self resourcing, you can for the first time make yourself available to others as you choose and allow others to draw close to you.

It's not because you need them, or are looking to gain from them or feed from them or steal their love, but because you are a complete person able to safely engage with others and bless them and be blessed by them.